Dear Honey, I had an all day cleaning day today

Dear Honey, I had an all day cleaning day today.  I've been doing regular household chores, holding things together of course but today was a dig in and deep clean day.  The chore of the day was tackling the storage closet that you really wanted to be more functional.  Well I'm almost there.  Took a bunch of stuff to donate when I was done.  Phew, I'm tired lol but does it ever feel good. :)

If your just starting this journey for the first time you might he thinking "like he cares".

If your Honey has never been to jail before or is about to go cuz he's on bail and awaiting sentencing; listen up. 

If you've done this tour with your honey several times before (especially if he is or has done pen time like my Honey has in the past) then you know this is his favorite letter if the week and he hopes to get such a letter regularly lol.  Especially the cleaning for your homecoming letter. 

Ex-cons are clean freaks.  They live in a very dirty place inside.  In very close and cramped quarters.  So they clean.  My Honey scrubs those cement floors and bricks by hand with a rag.  He cleans the bars on his cell, the bunk, table, toilet, all of it.  And he keeps his hygiene in top shape.  He does this at home too.  Its awesome, every woman's dream lol.  So he likes these letters.  It shows I respect his preferences, the work he does around the house and maintain that when he is gone.  Let's him feel I'm not totally falling apart.  Doing it is sometimes what holds me together. 

Is there a downside?  Yeah, there is.  Alcoholics are mean when looking to drink.  They are in a self loathing mode and so they say mean shit.  So in those moments my cleaning is never as good as his.  That sucks.  He doesn't "look" like he is an alcoholic (if your the type to picture a stereotype).  He had a psychiatrist who said he was to together to really be an alcoholic.  That cut Honey to the bone.  He got a new doctor though.  He can easily fool workers, po's into believing all is good.  That's good and bad, it interferes with getting real help, but keeps him out of jail.  But that is the nature of probation anyway. 

So if your Honey is looking at his first time inside, warn him.  Being unclean, stinky or unkempt is a good way to get a beat down.  And tossed from your cell by your celly to live with another dirty slob.  You thought men were slobs?, not cons.  Cuz when your "house" is a tiny space likely the size if your bathroom at home and you share it with one or two other guys, cleanliness really is next to godliness. 

Well honey is gonna love this letter, that's for sure :)