Today I had arrangements with a friend to visit honey and bring him canteen money. Sometimes I pay gas, sometimes someone offers and sometimes I barter. I bartered cuz I'm pretty good at crafts and home making skills. Then like any experienced jail wife I called in the morning. You gotta make sure Honey isn't in the hole or the hospital. All was good. So we travelled to the jail (its not in the town I live in). Got there, got in. The gaurd at the visiting gate is a friendly Lady. She called for Honey to be sent down while I got mine and baby's ID ready, snow gear off etc. Then she was chatting on the phone. I waited. Honey had been shipped 15 min prior to the start of visiting time. She was thoughtful enough to apologize and explain they don't let out transport details so she didn't know when I called.
I missed Honey by 45 min. Arriving earlier wouldn't have helped cuz visits had only started 30 minutes before I got there.
I can only imagine Honey's reaction when he discovered he was being shipped 15 min before visits. He knew I was likely coming. That I was bringing him canteen money.
I wrote as soon as I for home but it will be a week till he gets it. I'll call in the morning to tell the Native Liaison to have him call my parents when I visit them next. That will key Honey know right away that I did come, and I know what happened.
Dear Honey, you got shipped today. I came, I came to visit like I said I would but they shipped you just before the start of visits. I miss you. I wanted to see you. I wanted to hear your voice. You'll be waiting even longer for letters. At least I know right away and can send this one to the new jail. Its 3 hours away. I have no idea bow I will visit. I was looking forward to visits cuz I thought you'd be near by this time. I hate where thru shipped you; it's far, its a super jail, and I know all the problems that brings. Oh Honey my heart is breaking today. I'm just so disappointed. Write me sweet letters lots. Play poker hard. I'm sending money but I remember you being in this jail before and how little they feed you, the crappy pre-prepped food that resembles a TV dinner. Stay safe. You hear me Honey? Please for me stay safe!
If your a partner or family member of someone in jail, this is a situation that just sucks. Your life is effected by each decision the jail makes. And no one cares. It's not about you in their eyes. Many act like its your fault for loving a con. Guards like the one at the visitor gate are rare. She is always sympathetic. Some how the system hasn't gotten to her heart. When you go visiting or call the jail or prison where your loved one is, be polite. Rudeness and anger will get you no where. But if your polite you will find such employees and finding them will make this easier on you. For me I have found this kind heart in the gate guard a the Women who works in the mail room at the nearby jail. Also the super jail where Honey is has a super nice Native Liaison. I mention this cuz this rare kindness deserves recognition.
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